For the past three years I have been following Lara Casey’s Making Things Happen goal setting process. Last year I started using her PowerSheets and purchased them again for this year. Before I go any further, I will say I LOVE using the PowerSheets but they are not necessary to follow her techniques. Every year she walks through her own goal setting and Making Things Happen on her blog so that is a great place to start. I have such a huge appreciation for Lara. She has a way of motivating you to take risks and follow your dreams like no one else. Many times I feel like she is talking directly to me and I know other people have told me they feel the same way.
When I heard she was coming out with a book I knew it would be at the top of my reading list but I wasn’t sure what to expect. Being familiar with her blog I worried that it may be the same information and lack the new motivation I was looking for in 2015. As January 1st rolled around my copy of the book arrived along with my PowerSheets. I decided to look at last year’s goals to get me going. Unfortunately for me, this actually made me feel like quite a failure. I realized quickly that most of the things I wanted to accomplish last year would be back on my list this year. I wondered if it was even worth it to set goals again. Although I bought the PowerSheets last year and worked through them I didn’t really use them much past January and my goals were a bit on the extreme side. I mean, I was all set to conquer the world and save us all from destruction until busy season started to pick up, we moved into our house, and I got pregnant (HELLO morning sickness).
Feeling a bit defeated by 2014 and having the realization that this year would bring it’s own challenges (i.e. new baby very soon), I felt a bit paralyzed on where to go. I decided to start Lara’s book before jumping straight into the PowerSheets. I also spent a lot of quiet time praying on what my next steps should be. You see, I like to be in control- I am a wee bit of a perfectionist and at times could be considered an A-Type personality. I always need to have a plan and now I wasn’t sure what that plan should be.
For the first time I was really counting on God to lead me.
As I spent time in prayer and worked through Lara’s book I was able to do a tremendous amount of self reflection. I was able to really dig deep into what motivates me, what I fear, and what matters most in life. I am so glad that I did work through her book prior to actually setting any goals because I would have set the same unrealistic ones as I have in the past. Her book also helped me to see that I really didn’t fail at my goals as I previously thought. Although I did not accomplish every goal 100% perfectly, I did make some baby steps and some big steps towards them. That has always been an issue of mine, I am an all or nothing girl. I see myself as failing if things didn’t go perfectly or I’m not the best. That’s hard to say because it sounds very narcissistic as I type it out but it’s time for me to get honest with myself.
One of the themes of Lara’s book is Purpose over Perfect. Stop chasing perfect- you will never win, you will never get there. This was such an eye-opener for me! WAKE-UP CALL to Aubri, your constant pursuit of perfection is holding you back. Stop caring so much what other people think and take that next step you were meant to take. If you fail, if you mess up- SO WHAT! As I tell my 6 year old daughter- we learn from our mistakes. So why are we so afraid to make any?
The deeper I dug, the more I quieted myself and listened for direction- the clearer things got, until one day the floodgates began to open and I then my pencil wouldn’t stop writing. I mean look this post- you may be saying enough already and get to the point but I don’t think I have wrote this much since my college days (Go Spartans!).
Then I was ready. Ready to set some real goals focusing on what really matters.
My word for 2015 is Intention.
Things I am saying NO to in 2015:
Fear of Failure
Social Media as a Distraction
Unhealthy Eating Habits
Fear of Judgement
My Phone at Night
Buying Things I Don’t Need
Things I am saying YES to in 2015:
Stepping Out of My Comfort Zone
Setting Myself up for Success
Blogging Meaningful Content
Under my big goals I have made goals for each month, baby steps to “Make it Happen”.
Below is my tending list for January. The number next to the goal corresponds to the big goal that I am working towards and the ones.
Update pictures & bio on blog (1)
Make a blog schedule for January and February (1)
Read Backyard Homestead (5)
Buy and Start Love Dare Book (2)
Sign-up and start Bible Study at Church (6)
Plan a date night for January (2)
Start Garden Binder. Measure and sketch out garden (5)
Create conversation starter jar for dinner table (3)
Blog 2x/week (1)
Post things I’m grateful for to Instagram 3x/wk (1)
Social media free weekends (2 & 3)
Art, Learning, or Cooking Project with Rilyn (3)
Eight Cups of Water per Day (4)
Handsfree (no phone) before school or after school (2& 3)
Quiet Time (6)
Family Dinner (2 & 3)
Intentional Mornings (2 & 3)
All of the goals I made for January were things I think I can reasonable accomplish this month. I also won’t beat myself up if I don’t get it all done. There are days we don’t have family dinner, I use my phone too much, or weeks I am not able to blog but that’s OKAY. My goal is to start being more intentional with the time I have towards making those baby steps. So far things are going good. I plan on updating the blog next month with my progress and February goals.
I am always so inspired to hear what your other people’s goals are. Feel free to share yours in the comments!